NLP - Mindset /
NLP – Neuro-Linguistic Programming
What is it?
NLP is hard to explain, because it is something that needs to be experienced.
I give a different answer every time and if you ask three different NLP practitioners, they will surely all be different. Here is my as technical as possible definition – hopefully without losing anyone.
Everything we experience all the “data” is taken in by our subconscious brains is processed, coded and filed. Our brains code our experiences by assigning meanings to them, creating beliefs about them, attaching feelings to them, holding fears about them. These codes become like the computer software your running inside your head.
Future experiences that our brains consider as similar, trigger those same codes running in the software. Some codes are good and useful and helpful and other codes that our brains are running are not helpful, old, outdated and don’t fully support our success, excellence or achievement.
NLP patterns and techniques upgrade the software by recoding those stored experiences, replacing them with new codes and anchoring the new information into the software so it (we) functions better.
NLP is a Toolbox of Techniques & Tools:
NLP is a toolbox of techniques and communication tools, taken from 3 among the most successful and capable American psychologists, years ahead of their time:
- Virginia Satir (renowned for her extraordinary skill and success in family therapy)
- Fritz Perls (father of gestalt therapy)
- Milton H. Erickson (father of modern-day hypnotherapy and renowned psychotherapist.)
They all had an extraordinarily high success rate, were extremely effective and created solutions or improvements much faster than their counterparts. This makes NLP the psychology of what works, and of advanced interpersonal communication.
NLP is working with the unconscious processes of the mind. We all have a different subjective experience (our own paradigms, or our own map of the world) this is what NLP works with.
Where can NLP be applied?
Essentially, to any area where excellence and success are required: coaching, education, business, leadership, interpersonal relationships, health, wellness etc.
To Explain NLP using a metaphor
The brain is a like big and complicated computer. Our mind is like software installed on that computer. Most of us have software installed of which the programming sometimes causes us to feel insecure, like we’re poor learners, incapable, unmotivated, afraid or even phobic. NLP helps you work at upgrading this software, to feel confident, capable, motivated and help you achieve any goal strategically.
NLP is not some form of dark Vulcan mind control we use to manipulate others with evil intent. Some people think of NLP as dark or manipulative in a bad way and perhaps some people out there try to use the techniques for evil. That is not the Thriverz way. Thriverz NLP is only for used good and to help people.
NLP is Also Not Counseling
Many therapist, traditional psychologists and counselors take a talk therapy approach. Though this can be cathartic for some people, for many people it takes a long time to feel better, to achieve success and talking about problems makes most people feel bad. NLP works more with the subconscious part of the mind and focuses on positive patterns and techniques allowing us to focus more on positive states than on the negatives of the problem and gets us to solutions much more quickly.
For example, in traditional talk therapy it takes more than 20 sessions (of mental anguish) to resolve a phobia, while NLP has a much higher success rate with doing so in 10 minutes or less.
Nothing against counseling or psychiatry, in fact, my initial career path was Counseling. I was exceptional at it too, but halfway through graduate school I realized that I simply wasn’t equipped to spend countless session hours (years sometimes) listening to people wallow in pain, negativity and problems. Counseling and Psychotherapy are not my Personal Genius. My Personal Genius and my NLP work is about finding positive and meaningful solutions and creating useful shifts with people as quickly as possible.
NLP is about directing the brain “here” instead of “there.”
Where “here” is state of excitement, excellence, motivation, happiness, confidence, self-love etc. And “there” are states that are the opposite of those. Instead of talking about problems, you talk about solutions, and use special patterns and techniques to change the way your brain codes subjective experience and information.
To a business owner or leader: NLP helps you set goals, achieve excellence, enhance your skills, adopt skills of people you think are good, become a master communicator, and achieve a high level of understanding of verbal -and non-verbal communication.
To someone with a fear of public speaking: There are several NLP techniques, that will resolve your fear of public speaking, and feel confident, motivated and capable instead.
To someone with relationship problems: NLP helps you understand how people work, and how people communicate differently. Understanding that will give you a great insight as to how to communicate to your partner. And communicating together in a more effective way, where you can understand each other.
To someone who needs change in their life: NLP has a series of techniques that help you set goals, become more motivated, helps you achieve excellence in your new projects, build additional skills. And moves people from the effect side of their life, to being on the cause side of life. Techniques that move people from a state where they feel stuck, to a place where they are unstuck.